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11Jun/16

I Said Yes #ItChangedMyLife

By Bukola Olusola

It was an exciting day. One I can’t really explain. All day, the surge of happiness that welled up in me knew no bounds. The root of that happiness, I couldn’t trace. It did little to bother me: I was happy and I dared not quench the feeling with my “Why?”s

I was in the place of my dreams, where  was literally the caption ” Dreams do come true”. I was in the university I could brag about, after 3 years of trying. Today,this day, is not my first, yet I’m still in awe of how things look.
I remember later that evening, a friend came and dragged me along. I knew not where I was going but I did not care – Not in this mood,I would do anything without regret.

I  recall sitting there, for each spoken word, I felt a dagger piercing my heart. I was transfixed and practically glued to the seat; I tried running but it was too late, I got caught up in the net. With evident scowl on my face,I kept my eyes fixed on the man standing in front me, speaking like I was an open book for him.

I didn’t know the exact thing he said that opened the flood gate of tears but I knew that moment had changed things.
I wept like a baby,I just couldn’t stop. With all the filth I saw within,I couldn’t stop my legs from running to the altar when I heard’

“Will you give your life to Jesus?”.

Now I know more,want more.
My philosophy has failed me.
Motivation is gone from too many rise and falls,
I seem to slip away like a withering flower,
“Grace, how long do I still have?” I mumbled

That was it! The moment everything blew up in my face and I didn’t  measure up. But again grace abounded.
This time it led me to the cross. Where the scalpel laid with loving lure. That day I was given a conscience, a conscience that tugs at me with despite the plea of my facing self. A conscience that nudges me onto the right path like the untiring hands of a church clock.

I said Yes to that call, it changed my life.


 

Read previous episodes here

I Got A September 11 Phone Call #ItChangedMyLife By Rev Laurie Idahosa

I Discovered A Bird Of Prey By Priscilla Adeboye

Death #ItChangedMyLife By Okikiola Oladele

I Read A Book #ItChangedMyLife by Victoria Akinwande

I Discovered Purpose #ItChangedMyLife by Daniel Otabor

Dr S.O. And His Cane #ItChangedMyLife by Olubukola Omotoso

I Met A Happy Blind Lady #ItChangedMyLife by Nissi Inspiration

I Lost My Phone #ItChangedMyLife by Adekunle

I Fell In Love #ItChangedMyLife  By Tomi Adesina

I Watched Scandal #ItChangedMyLife By LordJosh

08Jun/16

Death #ItChangedMyLife

By Okikiola Oladele

I have learnt to live life without a shade of worry. I mean when you look at it deeply what is the point of worrying. You never know what will happen tomorrow. You don’t even really know if tomorrow will come, so why do you want to keep yourself rooted in the very mystery that tomorrow holds and forget to live life today. Life is right here and now,in this moment, let tomorrow worry about itself. It is non-existent. You see, I am a “cross-the-bridge-when-we-get-there” kinda guy. I still am but then, death changed my life!

Death shouldn’t be new to me, well to many of us but it’s much more real around me. It lives around me, just around the corner. It could jump out anytime with its crooked sickle and snatch a soul. I see it every now and then so I could almost say I’m immune to it…or so I thought!
You see one would think being in the field of medicine makes one hardened to circumstances and happenstance. Ah, well, one might be right. You barely have time to grief for the loss of a patient before you attend to the next one. Nope!
It isn’t that you aren’t hurt but you can’t allow your mental status cloud your judgement so you put all thoughts of grief and sorrow aside! Superman fascie on and ready to go but every Superman still needs a Lois Lane, or how does the saying go? I digress. So you see…Death changed my life! And I will tell you why.
I haven’t talked about this a lot. 2012. It was a time that bent the fabric of reality for me as a person and made me see this life for what it really is. One of my cousins, more like a sister died. I had never felt shock like that before, as my father called out to me as I sat in the car…and you know when Dad is about to break a sad news to me, he gets unusually cheerful. I cried for about one week straight. It felt surreal.
A darkness threatened to engulf my heart and the world seemed bleak! You know after every night, the sun always shine again, right? Right? Oh it did. The sun really did shine! But only for a moment! We were healing and gradually returning to normal programming. The warmth was returning and smiles were becoming brilliant again! Radiant joy. Remember how I said death lives just around the corner? Yep! It jumped out and snatched another soul, specifically the sister this time around! You start asking questions, what is happening? Who did these lovely young ladies offend? That kind of thing messes with your mind especially when you take a minute to think about how the Immediate family members might be feeling. It is quite….crushing!
Fast forward a couple of years and more shocking deaths and you start getting wicked vibes down your spine. Stuff like what I have described are only seen in movies but then it hits close to home and suddenly you know that life isn’t what you thought it might be.
You may have designed a fancy dream of what your life should be. Who you will marry. Where you will settle down. How many cars you will own. These are all good! Brilliant as a matter of fact. Planning makes perfect but somehow we’ve gotten so engrossed in the future and we forget to live in present. LIFE IS FLEETING. Live life now! It goes without saying learn to appreciate people more, do the things you enjoy doing! Don’t keep yourself bottled up. I was discussing, just recently,  with a dear friend about how people tell us how we seem to be everywhere doing everything and my answer is simple. Whatever my hands find doing, I need to do it well!
We were born with so much talents and potentials that need to find expression. I want to be one of those guys who die empty! I want to get real here, I’m not trying to be dark but the truth is you never know when the sand will stop running in your hourglass. It’s something you want to take a moment and think about! You ask yourself, why should you keep hanging on to old relationships that may keep you grounded? Why do I want to keep living life in my corner? Why do I want to keep myself restricted to a particular diet? Why won’t I try out a new sport? Why do I want to keep living in this city?
Interesting to note is that you might have valid answers to some of those nagging questions at the back of your mind and that’s okay! The important question is, How do you see life? Something to just…deal with or a gift! I think we need to come to a realisation of the fact that everyday we live is a gift! Each waking moment is bigger than us and the moment we know or understand that, we step out of the frame and see the bigger picture!
When we begin to honour the sacrifices people make for us by using every waking moment as a treasure to be cherished such that if you were to check out right now and it is asked that what did you do with you life, you will see in that moment, In that instance, that life in itself is bigger than you!
So, you see…death changed my life! Now I am a big picture, tall dreams kinda guy! The goal is to die empty whenever that is.
Peace. Love and Chicken grease!


Read previous episodes here

I Read A Book #ItChangedMyLife by Victoria Akinwande

I Discovered Purpose #ItChangedMyLife by Daniel Otabor

Dr S.O. And His Cane #ItChangedMyLife by Olubukola Omotoso

I Met A Happy Blind Lady #ItChangedMyLife by Nissi Inspiration

I Lost My Phone #ItChangedMyLife by Adekunle

I Fell In Love #ItChangedMyLife  By Tomi Adesina

I Watched Scandal #ItChangedMyLife By LordJosh

Tomorrow on #ItChangedMyLife; I Discovered A Bird Of Prey by Countess Priscilla Adeboye

07Jun/16

I Read A Book #ItChangedMyLife

By Victoria Akinwande

One of my greatest heart desires has always been to lead an extraordinary life, to be significant, to leave a legacy for my generation. But, I didn’t know what it takes to make my dreams become a reality. “My dreams remained dreams”, there was no corresponding action to make them become a reality.

When anybody asked me “where do you see yourself in the nearest future?” my response used to be “I would be great and living a first class life.” Lol! I thought having great dreams and visions was all I needed to be phenomenal.

 

Sometimes last year, I visited a friend in Lagos, Nigeria. I love to travel a lot. My friend was very busy during the visit, I stayed home alone most of the time. It’s easier in situations like this to watch movies, listen to music and chat away my precious time, but I decided to READ.

 

My friend is an avid reader, there were books all over the room, close to 200 books, but I had to pick one. Choosing which one to read wasn’t easy mehn! I had to close my eyes to other books, most of the books were excellent books but one really caught my attention “The Monk That Sold His Ferrari.” Coincidentally, that was the same book my friend recommended.

The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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So, I embarked on a journey with the Leadership Expert and Titan Robin Sharma. Apart from the oldest and still relevant book which doesn’t need an upgrade “The Bible”. For me, “The Monk That Sold His Ferrari” is a book I recommend for people to read.

 

The human race usually thinks that the future is a time zone say 5, 10 years from now, No. The future is not a time zone it’s all that you have been created to be that you haven’t become, So I realized I had to stop dreaming and wishing. It’s fine to dream, there are many times I sit down and visualize myself in my dream house, car, family, audience, et. al.

 

But I had to get up and begin to do the things that I was born to do. I started by compiling inspirational quotes and send to my BBM contacts weekly, from there I graduated into writing and posting article on my social media accounts and today I have a blog where I post on daily (HERE). Truth is I haven’t done 1% of what God created me to do, but I’m on the path and I know I would arrive at my DESTINATION.

 

I realized that to have the result only the 5% of the world’s population have, I have to be willing and committed to thinking, behaving and installing the habits the other 95% of the world’s population are not willing to imbibe, that’s where we separate the great, that’s where the 5% rises to the top.

 

This book is a testimonial of the quote by Francis Bacon “Some books are to be tasted, others to be swallowed, and some few to be chewed and digested.”

I chewed and digested this book and it changed my life forever!


Tomorrow on #ItChangedMyLife; Death #ItChangedMyLife by Okikiola Oladele

Read previous episodes here

I Discovered Purpose #ItChangedMyLife by Daniel Otabor

Dr S.O. And His Cane #ItChangedMyLife by Olubukola Omotoso

I Met A Happy Blind Lady #ItChangedMyLife by Nissi Inspiration

I Lost My Phone #ItChangedMyLife by Adekunle

I Fell In Love #ItChangedMyLife  By Tomi Adesina

I Watched Scandal #ItChangedMyLife By LordJosh

04Jun/16

I Met A Happy Blind Lady #ItChangedMyLife

By Nissi Inspiration

Once upon a time, I was so self-conscious, uncomfortable in my own skin and always needing a mirror’s reflection to determine my beauty.

But that was, ‘once upon a time’

It all changed when I met Maria…

On a very gloomy day filled with disappointments, I decided to pay my friend – Tolani – an evening visit, but on getting there, I was unprepared for what I met. I have seen blind people by the roadsides countless number of times, but this is the first time I would officially meet one who isn’t a charity case! And a beautiful one at that!

The lady – whose unfocused eyes pronounced her blind – sat, all smiles, as Tolani fixed her make-up. Speechless as I was, Tolani faced me with a bright smile. “It is good you are here babe, I need you to be the judge” she said when I entered. “Maria has a date and I want to make sure she looks smashing”

I watched as Maria’s face broke into a wide expectant smile. Clearing my throat, I said. “Of course, you have nothing to worry about Maria. Tolani is very good at this” I assured her.

“Of course, with two beautiful women, nothing can go wrong” Maria said in an animated fashion.

I rolled my eyes. “What makes you think I am beautiful?” I asked, knowing she just talked out of courtesy.

She smiled, her eyes unfocused. “You sound like a nice person and nice people are always beautiful to me”

Floored by that statement, I watched in silence as Tolani applied a modest amount of gloss to Maria’s puckered lips. I wondered how Maria must be feeling, unable to personally check out her reflection in the mirror to know if she was truly looking great. Unable to see if the powder blended perfectly with her skin. She just sat there, with a contented smile on her face! How could she do that!

“Yes, I am through” Tolani declared minutes later.

The smile on Maria’s face brightened up the room as we helped her up. The short red gown she had on stopped just above her knees. But the cloth and make-up wasn’t what made her look so breathless. It was her smile. Her smile came from within, making her glow with happiness and confidence.

“You look so beautiful” I said truthfully, seeking to reassure her, but she didn’t need the reassurance.

“I feel beautiful” she responded.

And that! Those three words changed me. Maria, though without eyes was able to change my way of thinking. Though without sight, she was able to look within to find the true definition of beauty. Now I know that beauty isn’t all about the reflection I see in my standing mirror. True beauty can only be felt!

Now, I look less at my standing mirror, and I look more at my inner mirror, because it is not enough to look beautiful. Feeling beautiful is the ultimate!

I met a happy blind lady, it changed my life!


 

Tomorrow on #ItChangedMyLife; Day 5 Dr S.O. And His Cane by Bukola Omotoso

Read Previous Episodes here

I Lost My Phone #ItChangedMyLife by Adekunle

I Fell In Love #ItChangedMyLife  By Tomi Adesina

I Watched Scandal #ItChangedMyLife By LordJosh

 

03Jun/16

I Lost My Phone #ItChangedMyLife

By Adekunle

Should I, a professed Christian, called to be a saint, a child of God, a member of Christ, a temple of the Holy Ghost, should I be covetous, sensual, proud, or envious? Should I yield to impatience, discontent, or anger? Should I be slothful, unbelieving, or unmerciful? What effects will such conduct have upon others? All that God has done for us, or by us, or given to us, should lead us to watchfulness, self-denial, and diligence. Next to the sinfulness of sin, we should dread the scandal
– Matthew Henry.

I earned N5000 per month for six months as an Industrial Training (IT) Student attached to Federal Radio Corporation of Nigeria, Headquarters Abuja. There was a Strike in the period by the Radio Workers Union and because I showed up to assist the management, I was paid an extra N7000. That is a total of N37,000.00

Before I resumed school for my final year, I decided I was going to buy a new phone. The NOKIA E63 (You probably don’t remember what it looks like now but it was a BIIIIIIIIIIIIIG deal then); So on this beautiful Saturday, I drove to Emab Plaza in Abuja -popular place for several phone shops and unloaded a total of N36,000 for my new phone.

nokia-e63

 

 

 

 

NOTE: N36000.00 is just One Thousand naira less than the entire income I received from my workplace throughout IT.

 

I could interest you with the reactions to my new phone (mostly excited with me feeling super cool) or bore you with details of how I got my accommodation for first semester 500 level but I shan’t. I will just go to the point where my life changed.

 

Minna was hot. You know how the heat wave of this year was across the country? Well, that was the norm in Minna. So on this fateful night, I elected to sleep in the living room of the house, keeping my phone among other ‘prized’ possessions safely (?) in the bedroom and the best part of it? I decided not to lock the main entrance to the house. (I don’t think it was the first time)

 

I woke up in the morning for a new day and I saw my roommate, Sogo. He said and I quote “We’ve been robbed”. Now, Sogo typically reacts to bad stuff by laughing- He was NOT laughing that day. By now you have probably very successfully guessed E63 was no longer present within the premises, custody or handle of either of us. In English, N36k was gone!

Those of you who know me know that I don’t collect plenty money from people in any way neither do I “do Yahoo Yahoo” or so, as Sogo rightly reacted, it was not a FUNNY Something.

 

As we all react to issue of stolen/missing items, I went out, looked around [as though the phone merely went out for an early morning jog and collapsed just outside the door] and asked. There was this young guy who seemed helpful (which is probably why I suspect he had something to do with the theft) and suggested that I go meet a “Baba” around some corner of the house that could miraculously do something about the situation and I did something I would NEVER imagined I would do. I looked at Sogo like “what do you think?”, His look like “What are you talking about?” helped bring my brain back home. Now let me be clear, I am ABSOLUTELY CERTAIN I would NOT have gone to any Baba, whether or not I got that reset but the fact that I didn’t dismiss it IMMEDIATELY it came was a personal disappointment for me but #ItChangedMyLife

 

From that moment on till now, I am not aware of ANY material possession that I have/would value so much as to CONSIDER such error. I have God to thank for that, and perhaps the thief. It was a lesson well learnt. There is nothing that I have received that I shouldn’t be able to give back. Nothing!

 

Now before you get all “touched” by this, Know that sometimes [I SAID SOMETIMES O!!!], I get stuff of value, and while I am immensely grateful for the gifts and show my gratitude, I..errr…don’t treat the stuff with the ‘prestige’ people expect so maybe that is a by-product of my lesson. But I’m certain that the Person (GOD) that taught me not to ‘grab’ anything will also teach me to hold some of those things more dearly than I ordinarily do.


Tomorrow on #ItChangedMyLife: I Met A Happy Blind Lady #ItChangedMyLife By Nissi Inspiration

Read Previous Episodes here

I Fell In Love #ItChangedMyLife  By Tomi Adesina

I Watched Scandal #ItChangedMyLife By LordJosh

20Apr/16

Jumai Episode 7

Baban looked at the girl through the screen door, he was still undecided on what to do with her. He wanted to keep her alive, hostages could come in handy but she was also potential trouble. Her wealthy father would stop at nothing to have his daughter back… but it also meant that her wealthy father would pay anything to have his daughter back. He wasn’t going to have her back but the money would not hurt.
Even if he was going to kill her, she could still be useful. She was the one with Sule during his strongest points and the moment when he died, he needed information; information she would have. He could threaten her to get the information but she was a spoilt rich kid, threats may not work. Torturing her could be counterproductive also. A girl like her would die as soon as the first tooth was pulled out.
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13Apr/16

Jumai Episode 6

Mark opened his eyes and immediately shut it. The light hurt his eyes and worsened the banging in his head. Where was he? He opened his eyes slightly and looked around; he was in the infirmary. Why was he here? He leaned forward and his sight swayed. He paused for a few seconds then sat up on the bed. The infirmary was empty. Why was he…? Jumai! He jumped to his feet, his head reeled with pain and stumbled towards a wall. He held on to the wall and moved towards the door.
He pushed the door halfway open and heard voices, he paused and peeped. The corridor was empty. He opened the door and walked down the corridor. The voices were coming from the office at the end of the corridor, he stopped just before the window of the room and listened.
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16Mar/16

Jumai Episode 2

Mark hurried up the stairs of the WAAP building. He hated being late for meetings, especially because he would get an earful from his boss. He looked at his reflection in the mirrored stairway, he liked what he saw.  Lateness wasn’t tolerated at WAAP, neither was raggedness. He straightened his tie and smiled; he looked good. He shook his head; he was admiring himself when his boss was probably typing his termination letter in his office.
He got to conference room door and stopped, took a deep breath and opened the door.
His eyes widened in surprise; the room was empty.
Was the meeting over? He checked his phone; he was just ten minutes late. He saw the ‘new mail’ icon blinking and he clicked on it. The mail was from his boss; the meeting had been postponed by two hours.
He sighed. At least now he could go over his presentation again before the meeting. He turned around and headed for his office.  As he approached his office, he saw someone standing in at his door. He could not tell who it was. Was she lost?
“Excuse me?” Mark said.
She turned around.
Jumai!
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09Mar/16

JUMAI Episode 1

Mark Ademola looked through the window of the plane as it continued its descent. The atmosphere was clear, it was going to be an uneventful end to an uneventful flight, which was good. He was back to his world, the place where he belonged.

Lagos was home; crazy and sometimes frustrating but home all the same.

He craned his neck to see if he could spot his street or his house. It was a habit he had that was yet to yield any results. Though he saw several roads and several houses, he never saw his own. Leaning back in his seat, he wondered why he kept trying; it was never going to happen.

A few minutes later the plane stopped and the ‘fasten seatbelt’ sign went off.

“Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Murtala Muhammed Airport, Lagos.” The Captain announced. “The time is 9:15am…”

Mark ignored the mumbling Pilot and unfastened his seatbelt. It was crazy that he still needed to go to the office after the strenuous week he just had but that was his life. He stood from his seat and reached for the overhead cabinet. He opened it and removed his luggage.

Chop! Chop! Let’s go.

“Could you help me get my bag, please?” A rather compelling female voice called from behind him.

He looked back to see who the voice belonged to. He stopped at the sight that faced him. She looked at him with the most beautiful eyes he had ever seen.
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