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#ItChangedMyLife #ItChangedMyLife

By Oluwatoyosi Jolayemi

So here I am trying to think about an event that has changed my life, something, anything to write about, and I can’t seem to come up with any. I had initially written about an accident that occurred some 4 years ago, but decided against it after reading it up, as I realized there was nothing spectacular about it, I had some bruises and at least a permanent scar and maybe a heightened phobia for roads, but the sum of it all didn’t change my life, not in a life changing way.

Right now, I’m thinking and really coming hard on myself on how I don’t seem to have something remarkable to write about and I have come to this hard but honest realization; it is my fault! It is my fault I haven’t exactly had life-changing experiences or permit me to say experiences that I believe are worthy to be termed as life-changing, and I can sit here in my empty PPA doing absolutely nothing like I always do (or my best chore of all- complain about how crappy NYSC is), or I can choose to gather my loins and take it as a call to action, a call to experience life, a call to soak life in and make it remarkable, a call to quit being so scared and actually let myself feel, breath and live this one life I have been exceedingly blessed with.
I can keep complaining about how uneventful life here can be, but have I actually taken actions as to what to do to change it, make it really and actually life-changing? I honestly can’t say I have. So I’m writing this and I believe it’s gonna change my life, in fact, it has changed my life, at least the way I see it, and I hope it does same for yours too. I hope it inspires you to get off your lazy ass and get your life changed, inspires you to take that risk and quit that job that is making you miserable, apply for that position you really wanna be in, register for that exam you are scared of failing, ask that babe you believe is way out of your league out on a date,…and the list goes on and on as these all won’t happen while you wait for them to happen, you have to work hard towards it and make it happen, and you won’t know if you never give it at least a trial. I’m gonna start now and hope you do so too because in the end, we only regret the chances we didn’t take, or like I like to put it, the risks we didn’t take.


I Read A Book #ItChangedMyLife

By Victoria Akinwande

One of my greatest heart desires has always been to lead an extraordinary life, to be significant, to leave a legacy for my generation. But, I didn’t know what it takes to make my dreams become a reality. “My dreams remained dreams”, there was no corresponding action to make them become a reality.

When anybody asked me “where do you see yourself in the nearest future?” my response used to be “I would be great and living a first class life.” Lol! I thought having great dreams and visions was all I needed to be phenomenal.


Sometimes last year, I visited a friend in Lagos, Nigeria. I love to travel a lot. My friend was very busy during the visit, I stayed home alone most of the time. It’s easier in situations like this to watch movies, listen to music and chat away my precious time, but I decided to READ.


My friend is an avid reader, there were books all over the room, close to 200 books, but I had to pick one. Choosing which one to read wasn’t easy mehn! I had to close my eyes to other books, most of the books were excellent books but one really caught my attention “The Monk That Sold His Ferrari.” Coincidentally, that was the same book my friend recommended.

The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari








Download book here

So, I embarked on a journey with the Leadership Expert and Titan Robin Sharma. Apart from the oldest and still relevant book which doesn’t need an upgrade “The Bible”. For me, “The Monk That Sold His Ferrari” is a book I recommend for people to read.


The human race usually thinks that the future is a time zone say 5, 10 years from now, No. The future is not a time zone it’s all that you have been created to be that you haven’t become, So I realized I had to stop dreaming and wishing. It’s fine to dream, there are many times I sit down and visualize myself in my dream house, car, family, audience, et. al.


But I had to get up and begin to do the things that I was born to do. I started by compiling inspirational quotes and send to my BBM contacts weekly, from there I graduated into writing and posting article on my social media accounts and today I have a blog where I post on daily (HERE). Truth is I haven’t done 1% of what God created me to do, but I’m on the path and I know I would arrive at my DESTINATION.


I realized that to have the result only the 5% of the world’s population have, I have to be willing and committed to thinking, behaving and installing the habits the other 95% of the world’s population are not willing to imbibe, that’s where we separate the great, that’s where the 5% rises to the top.


This book is a testimonial of the quote by Francis Bacon “Some books are to be tasted, others to be swallowed, and some few to be chewed and digested.”

I chewed and digested this book and it changed my life forever!

Tomorrow on #ItChangedMyLife; Death #ItChangedMyLife by Okikiola Oladele

Read previous episodes here

I Discovered Purpose #ItChangedMyLife by Daniel Otabor

Dr S.O. And His Cane #ItChangedMyLife by Olubukola Omotoso

I Met A Happy Blind Lady #ItChangedMyLife by Nissi Inspiration

I Lost My Phone #ItChangedMyLife by Adekunle

I Fell In Love #ItChangedMyLife  By Tomi Adesina

I Watched Scandal #ItChangedMyLife By LordJosh


I Discovered Purpose #ItChangedMyLife

I am now an undergraduate. Freedom at last. New friends, new country and new culture. All of these I am going to make sure I enjoy to the fullest. These were my thoughts as I got into school to study Computer Engineering Technology. I am not going to dull myself, I’m gon ball and also gon study. I won’t be left behind. So I can’t imagine being left out either.
So it all began. Went to club with friends, had a couple of bottles of beer, great shots of Jack Daniel and amazing true or dare games. Wow I have been missing a lot Oo. These kept on buzzing in my young mind. But at the end of every day I ‘flexed’, I never felt fulfilled. Something was missing I thought to myself. But what could that be. I am free now, I can sleep when I like and go out when I want. So what’s wrong? Sigh! This kept on happening. 100 level gone, 200 level followed suit and I am about to hit 300 level and my grades are not even encouraging to add to the matter. Mehn I can’t take this anymore. There’s got to be more like Micah Stampley observed.
Then the wake up call came through. It was my younger sister, the fourth child Dorathy Otabor. She called, “Hello Big Bro, How are you na?” She asked… “I am fine O my sis” I replied. She continued, “How’s school na? Hope everything is fine, just thought to check up on you and know how you are doing.” “Thank you so much sweet sis, school is fine and every every dey alright” I said to her. “Okay Bro, I will talk to you soon then.” She said and finally I replied “Thanks Sis. Good night”. As I was about to end the call she said, “Eh ehn Bro, do fast and graduate O, get a good job, own your apartment in Lagos so that Destiny and I can always come spend holiday with you in Lagos”. And then just like a babe whose wig just fell off her head as she’s about to climb a bike, that same feeling of mehn see level O. I realised I had a responsibility to ensure my life was properly fixed.
But what was missing was still the question? But not for long again, and with the help of my faith, I realised that it was a sense of not knowing where I was headed in life, what I was living for and why I was on earth was the reason I always felt something was missing. It was PURPOSE missing all along.
The journey began and I search for my purpose in line with how my faith taught me to. I prayed to the one who created me, God. Discussed with mentors and read books like it was my oxygen and BOOM! I had the Eureka moment. The moment when you finally get the answer to that Calculus question that has made you become someone with amnesia. It was revealed to me in bits that I was meant to live my life ensuring those I come in contact with I help unleash their greatness, build Nations and help grow start-ups to world class. I was meant to speak and lives will be transformed. I was meant to write and destinies will be revived. Finally I had discovered my purpose in life. What a feeling, still in that moment of clarity I got a word that would forever change the way men saw purpose. The word was, “the day you discover purpose should be your birthday.” Because I believe you are not yet born until you discover your purpose and you have not yet lived until you are truly living purposefully.
Fast-forward few years later, I am speaking in conferences, seminars both in Nigeria and outside Nigeria, travelled to 24states in Nigeria for speaking engagements, spoke in prestigious universities in Nigeria and got a book published. Gotten multiple awards, met great men, still praying to meet many and the list of great accomplishments just keeps growing. What’s even more amazing is that I am still in my incubation stage.
Truth is a life without purpose is like a black hole. It can never be filled by or with anything. No matter how much you put in it. It will always get swallowed up. Please what do you call a car without engine or DSTV without channels?
Mehn Fam I won’t deceive you, the day I discovered purpose, my life changed.



Next Episode

I Read A Book #ItChangedMyLife By Victoria Akinwande

Read Previous episodes below

Dr S.O. And His Cane #ItChangedMyLife by Olubukola Omotoso

I Met A Happy Blind Lady #ItChangedMyLife by Nissi Inspiration

I Lost My Phone #ItChangedMyLife by Adekunle

I Fell In Love #ItChangedMyLife  By Tomi Adesina

I Watched Scandal #ItChangedMyLife By LordJosh


I Watched Scandal #ItChangedMyLife

By LordJosh

It was the year 2013, I’d gotten a new TV series from a friend, and it was supposed to be very interesting. I was skeptical, it was not my type. I preferred shows like Pysch, The Mentalist, The Big Bang Theory; they were heavily loaded with comedy. But hey, I had nothing else to watch so I opened the ‘Season 1’ folder, opened the first episode and like that I was thrust into the world of ‘Scandal’.





Now for those of you who haven’t had the privilege to watch Scandal, here’s a short rundown of the Series. It is the story of a crisis manager, Olivia Pope. When she is not helping rich people get rid of bodies or manipulate the press, she is sleeping with the married President of the United States. As you can imagine, being the concubine of the president can’t be easy especially with the cunning and conniving woman that is the first lady. I know this goes without saying but Olivia’s life was a roller coaster.

Still waiting for the moment my life changed?

Hold on.

After watching a few episodes of Scandal I couldn’t help but admire the work of the writer of the story. The way Olivia’s life was tossed up and down interested me. I loved the fact that the writer of this story controlled this powerful woman and even the most powerful man in the world; President Fitzgerald Grant. The writer made a mess of their love affair, exposed them, broke them up then when she saw fit brought them back together. I was fascinated.

This was the point when the bulb lit up; I wanted to do this!

I wanted to make people fall in love. I wanted to make people hurt people (I’m all good inside, I promise). I wanted to create annoying heroes who saved lives. I wanted to discover new cities and countries. I wanted to create drugs worse than cocaine. I want to break lives and I wanted to mend them.

I wanted to write.

And so that night, I wrote the first episode of Nicholas.

The morning was cold, the leaves were wet; it wasn’t a pleasant time to run…

I wrote that episode and sent it to a friend (shout out to Dolapo) and the rest as they say is history. Since that night I have written seven full length stories and I’m working on publishing my first novel. Watching Scandal at the time triggered something in me, it brought out something that was buried deep, a desire I was yet to know I had; it changed my life!

So maybe a movie isn’t what will change your life, Scandal wasn’t exactly what changed my life, Shoda Rhimes, the creator and head writer of Scandal did. She was a person doing what I wanted to do, I saw her and it challenged me to finally get off my butt and do something with my talent.

Who are your heroes? Who are the people whose work you admire? Maybe it is time you stop admiring and applauding and get to emulating. I’m not Shoda Rhimes yet but the fact that you are reading this is evidence that I’m moving in that direction. You love LordJosh? Thank you. But maybe you should get out there and do something I can love about you too.

The best time to start? Today!

Watching Scandal changed my life only because I took a challenge from what I was watching. Take a challenge from what you just read and maybe, just maybe it will change your life too.


Tomorrow on #ItChangedMyLife
Day 2: I Fell In Love #ItChangedMyLife by Tomi Adesina.



So you are an amateur drug dealer on your first drug deal. It is supposed to be straight forward; drop the weed, get the money, get out. You are still careful though. You are dressed in a suit so attention is not drawn to your suitcase. Your shoes are shined, your hair is combed, you just want to do the deal and get out. But then something happens to scatter all your plans.

You have been set up!

You realize you have walked into a police sting operation. Your straight forward deal was leading you straight forward to jail. But you are smart. You see the cops before they can break their cover and you make for the exit. They are not dumb too, they know you know so they come after you. If you are caught with the suitcase in your hand, you will be headed to the penitentiary for a while but you can’t exactly drop it. You are getting desperate now. Then your eye catches something.

There is an open office with a lot of people dressed like you in it. They are all holding suitcases like yours. You will blend with them easily. Without thinking too much about it, you rush into the office. You keep an eye on the door though, you are not safe yet. For a few seconds you look around at the office you are in and the people dressed in it. It turns out they are lawyers. They are interviewing to become an associate to a top notch lawyer. It’s none of your business so you turn your attention to the door. And just then one of the cops sight you. You have nowhere else to go now.

“Next!” You hear the topnotch lawyer call out.

Your brain zip-zaps with conflicting ideas. You don’t have time to think too much so what do you do?

Take up your cross and face the cops?

mike arrested







Be a complete fool and interview for the job?







If you’ve seen the movie I just (sorta) described then you know Mike chose the latter option. If he didn’t there won’t be any TV Show called Suits.









And he would not become the great fake lawyer he turned out to be. What he did was stupid and it will only work one time out of ten but if you ask me, those are great odds. The question is, would you take such a chance?

Wildly successful people are known for the ridiculous things they do. Ridiculousness is the way of life the very successful. They take chances, they do things they cannot be sure would work but with a strong ridiculous belief that it would.

They build arks when it’s never rained.

noahs ark




They defy gravity and fly (without winchcraft).








They take 1000 CD plates and insert the content in a tiny music player called an iPod.








They see a machine that takes up a whole room and decide to put it in every home (including the ones with only one room).

bill gates








All these make sense to you now but when these people set out to do them, they were laughed at. Ridiculous!

You need a little ridiculousness in your life.

The problem with people who don’t live like this (I’m looking in the mirror) is they overthink things. They always want everything to be right, perfect. They wait for the right moment, the right feeling. They wait for approval. (Ever heard this quote: “It’s easier to get forgiveness than permission”?) These guys want the rain to stop before they get on their bike. They want to have the money before they shop for their Benz. They think the girl needs to like them before they ask her out. They think… and never do.

Thinking is great but the fun is in the doing.

No one ever became famous for thinking. Well except this guy.









What are your biggest dreams? The ones that even you find it difficult to believe. Okay so maybe I’m not asking you to go grab a Boeing 707, because it’s on your bucket list (how would you even grab that?). What I’m saying is, there are some stuff, some are even too regular to qualify as ridiculous that you are putting them off, waiting for the right time, the time to do them is now!

If you never do anything people consider stupid, then you may never actually accomplish much.

Me, I want to write a movie that Johnny Depp will act in.








Do you have his number?

What ridiculous thing do you want to do? Let’s discuss in the comment section.

The time now, let’s get ridiculous!