Tag Archives: Mothers

19Jun/16

I Became A Mother #ItChangedMyLife

By Blessing Akinsola-Onubedo

A lot of people imagine being married and then becoming parents and leaving happily ever after, I am one of them and i realize that reality is more than the imagination. I got married and to God’s glory became pregnant and the journey to motherhood began. Of course I’ve always known becoming a mother isn’t a child’s play but going through the experience is a different thing altogether. I experienced things that I’d never experienced in my life. I’d always read stories about how being pregnant isn’t easy and several things pregnant women go through but mine was a new and difficult experience even for most of my doctors. I couldn’t eat until the 6th month, was admitted in the hospital several times and then went through some emotional stress affecting me and my family during the period of pregnancy. And then the time for delivery came and some complications came up but by God’s mercy the child came out healthy without any difficulty. I looked at the face of the beautiful angel the Lord gave me and every pain and heart ache in the past 9months disappeared and all I could see is the wonder of God. She brought joy, comfort and happiness not to me only but the family as a whole. She’s changed my life positively and made me a mother.
Since she came into my life I’ve had sleepless nights, and had to learn a lot of new things but its being worth it.
During the journey I learnt new ways of trusting and depending on God and now that I’m a mother my life has taken a new turn. She’s being around for just a few weeks but the change she has brought is quite evident. Motherhood changed my life completely.

22Feb/16

Dear Omolola #LettersOfTheHeart

(Adetomiwa’s letter to his mom who passed a couple of decades ago)

Hello Omolola,

Hope this mail meets you well.
It’s been a while babe, I’m sure you’re doing well. A lot has happened since the last time, let’s just say my whole life has changed. I’ve tried to find love similar to the one we share and I’ve recorded massive failures. I’ve taken on some weird tasks and survived the rigorous schedules. I’ve had many near death experiences, no don’t be scared, I’m still whole, body and soul.  Omolola, I have lived in different places under varying conditions, but like the super hero you know, I’ve found a way to adapt and bask in them.  I’m done with school now, FINALLY! I’ll soon start working and I’ll be able to take good care of you.  Family members want to take graduation pictures with me, they all seem so proud of what I’ve become. Most of them say we look alike, I feel it’s an insult though, considering how beautiful you are compared to my frail looking face. Do forgive their weak attempt at paying compliments.
I saw our last picture a few minutes ago, the way I held on to your neck, our smiles could melt the sun. Now I only see you virtually, its been a long time without you. On the eve of your birthday, I told you I felt lonely all over again. I felt my strength fading, in my pursuit of happiness I think I had forgotten to live. Right now I wish I could take out time just to stop growing. I want to be the baby that I am, your baby. I want you to hug me and hold me close to your heart. I miss you babe. I want to see you so badly. How would I look like you and not be able to look at you. Its been over two decades since I last saw you. The world claims absence makes the heart grow fonder, it doesn’t explicitly explain the steps to keep the memories from fading, I’m at wit’s end on the latter. I wonder what would make you show your face. I have constantly made giant leaps, waiting earnestly on the edge of my seat, hoping that one of such grand events would feature an appearance from you. Alas, it only featured nugatory appearances from girls who are constantly striving to take your place. Never mind babe, I got you. Although I must say that with your delayed return, I have been tempted to test out a few interns to fill your position, sadly they have all dropped out. Management noticed that they lacked the amount of TLC we needed so they failed to meet up with the KPIs.

Olusola has always been my rival, an amazing one at that. He’s only lucky he met you before I did, because I have comfortably floored him in other aspects. I still keep him around though, after all, its advised that we keep our enemies closer. And then he’s my father, what can I do?
So while I await our anticipated rendezvous, I advise you to keep your eyes peeled baby girl, adjust your halo my dear angel, believe me, you wouldn’t want to miss any of this. I dust my shoes, fasten my belt and flip my cloak on, your super hero to the rescue.

Yours eternally,
Adetomiwa
Your son