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#ItChangedMyLife #ItChangedMyLife

By Oluwatoyosi Jolayemi

So here I am trying to think about an event that has changed my life, something, anything to write about, and I can’t seem to come up with any. I had initially written about an accident that occurred some 4 years ago, but decided against it after reading it up, as I realized there was nothing spectacular about it, I had some bruises and at least a permanent scar and maybe a heightened phobia for roads, but the sum of it all didn’t change my life, not in a life changing way.

Right now, I’m thinking and really coming hard on myself on how I don’t seem to have something remarkable to write about and I have come to this hard but honest realization; it is my fault! It is my fault I haven’t exactly had life-changing experiences or permit me to say experiences that I believe are worthy to be termed as life-changing, and I can sit here in my empty PPA doing absolutely nothing like I always do (or my best chore of all- complain about how crappy NYSC is), or I can choose to gather my loins and take it as a call to action, a call to experience life, a call to soak life in and make it remarkable, a call to quit being so scared and actually let myself feel, breath and live this one life I have been exceedingly blessed with.
I can keep complaining about how uneventful life here can be, but have I actually taken actions as to what to do to change it, make it really and actually life-changing? I honestly can’t say I have. So I’m writing this and I believe it’s gonna change my life, in fact, it has changed my life, at least the way I see it, and I hope it does same for yours too. I hope it inspires you to get off your lazy ass and get your life changed, inspires you to take that risk and quit that job that is making you miserable, apply for that position you really wanna be in, register for that exam you are scared of failing, ask that babe you believe is way out of your league out on a date,…and the list goes on and on as these all won’t happen while you wait for them to happen, you have to work hard towards it and make it happen, and you won’t know if you never give it at least a trial. I’m gonna start now and hope you do so too because in the end, we only regret the chances we didn’t take, or like I like to put it, the risks we didn’t take.


I Got A Phone Call From God #ItChangedMyLife

By Feeyi Okupe

It was a Saturday Morning,

The day after Christmas, everywhere was quiet and cold, so I was tucked in under my duvet. Suddenly I heard an orotund voice speaking to me without a phone or an ear piece in my ear. At first I was surprised but I knew it was the supernatural. I knew it was my Father, God Almighty based on the words spoken. I heard this voice in my right ear, it was very audible and it kept me in awe. After the words were spoken, my ears popped like water came out of my ear.

Was it a dream? No? Was it an imagination? No?
It was God’s voice with a message from Him. I was overwhelmed. His message was clear and I long to hear from Him that way again. He wanted me to know that He truly exists. He wanted me to tell the world that He is real. Hearing God’s voice, changed my life, it is the best thing that has ever happened to me and I count it a privilege to get a call from God. I call it a call from God because it felt like one.

I have vowed to be an encouragement based on the words I heard from God. So my message goes thus:… No matter what life throws at you, just hold on to your faith and believe that God exists. Understand that He will never leave nor forsake you. He is God and He is always faithful. Always remember this; “if God did not withhold His only Son (JESUS CHRIST) from us, He will surely give us or heart desires at the appointed time so don’t give up, just give thanks. Also believe that JESUS loves you and will always show up for you. Please stay in Faith, be grateful for what you have and be thankful for the blessings coming your way. Don’t give up, your Miracle is around corner.

I love you and God bless you.


My Heart Was Broken #ItChangedMyLife

By Adejumoke Adesanmi

It was my first relationship and I gave it all that I had. It was one of the best thing on earth when it started, it felt so nice to be loved by a man. People are quick to love and admire everything they see that looks good, it is no wonder our friends and relatives were glad seeing us moving together. They however did not know the cost I had to pay inside. This was one of the reason I found it hard to let go on time. I didn’t want to face a lot of questions from peeps and I had no answer for the question I was left with; ‘where will I start from?’

How do I explain how sincere and how committed I was to the relationship? I really don’t know. It was the first thing I wanted to wake up to and the last thing I go to bed with. I was running my duty like a dear woman in her 30th year of marriage. He loved me, if I can call it that but his nature of not being able to say ‘NO’ to anything in skirt, well that is a ‘NO NO’ for me. You know how dangerous it is when the man in question started finding pleasure in my sisters, my cousins or my friends.

Sometime ago, I travelled out of the country for a course and I returned unannounced. This wasn’t my first time, I had made unannounced visits. On one occasion, I came home to meet a friend of ours at his place on ‘her second weeks of visit’. No wonder Oga wasn’t sounding nice on phone. “I am sorry” was the lyrics I had to dance to.

My unannounced return from this particular trip exposed his over 3months secret affair with another friend. Oh! This time, I caught him red-handed; he made a little effort to deny it. We argued, we shouted, we fought and it got physical, I was hospitalized. That was it. I took a very strong decision of not going back no matter how sweet his pleas would be.

I thought everything that will end greatly was meant to be rough at the start. I was carried away with what people would say. I had the belief that women needed to exercise a lot of patience in order to enjoy their relationships. Well, you have to use your brain with all that, else you might have to pay with your dear life. Love is a very beautiful thing, when both parties are in it together.

All these and lots more are what have defined the woman I have become.

I fell in love, I suffered in love, my heart was broken and it changed my entire life.


I Lost My Dad #ItChangedMyLife

By Jesutoroti Balogun

Everyone has stories to tell as regards life changing experiences and I am not an exemption. I have loved, I have been heart broken, I have trusted, I have been betrayed and of course I have lost some loved ones. These experiences changed a part of me but the sudden loss of my Dad hasn’t left my entire life the same way, it’s had an immense impact on it. I have consoled a few of my friends that have at one time or the other lost a close person by saying ‘I know how you feel’… Well, it usually was about consolation as I also felt their pain but honestly, I never had an idea of what it really feels like to lose someone who means the world to you. Or would I say no one has experienced the intensity of that pain I feel whenever I remember my Dad because it’s just so unexplainable.  When I hear people say words like ‘I know how it feels…’, ‘I feel your pain…’ bla bla bla.  I shake my head because I know they do not have the slightest idea and I really do not wish they do at least not so early. It is usually a very unpalatable life changing experience.
Talking about change, losing someone so close to the heart as my Dad was to mine, leaves you with a definite change that can be positive or negative. As for me, I deliberately made efforts to imbibe the positive transformation that being fatherless brought to my path. Although, I initially questioned God, I felt empty and naked, I felt a part of me was gone, I felt I was a living corpse. Infact, I dwelt on the negativities and I was beginning to act like that fool who said God wasn’t in existence… I’m sure you can relate. Not too long after, I had better understanding on THE BREVITY OF LIFE, THE VANITY OF LIFE, MY PURPOSE IN LIFE AND MY HOME AT THE END OF LIFE.

Of a truth, of all my experiences in life (and the ones to come), losing my Dad to death was one that changed my life completely.


She Called For The Last Time #ItChangedMyLife

By Caleb Ekpenyong

I went to sleep feeling on top of the world and woke up dazed the next day. I felt the pain emptiness had created. This was new to me. It was all shades of wrong. I wasn’t supposed to feel this way. So I asked myself the one question that won’t stop ringing in my head – what have you done to yourself?
My king-size bed gave me no comfort as I lay in it. In fact, I literally fell ill.
18 hours before
’’Happy birthday love’’. This was the last thing I said to her as I ended the call. It was her day and I was so excited but she didn’t really sound excited though. She said she just wanted to stay indoors. I was okay with that as I don’t like parties much as I like hanging out with myself most times though that rarely happened ever since I met Funmi.
I stopped over at her place by 8 pm with a copy Danielle Steel’s Amazing Grace. She screamed when she saw it and hugged me pretty tight I had to beg her to let go. I was grinning from ear to ear at her reaction to my gift. She had ordered for the book from some online store but misplaced it on the day it was delivered to her so this was me being her knight in shining armour.
We both loved to read. It was one of the things that brought us together – reading and sharing ideas. It challenged and bound us together in a way some of our friends never seemed to understand.
I went to the kitchen to see what I could prepare for dinner; it is one of those things I enjoy doing – cooking for her. She told me to forget it as she had eaten enough food to last her a life time as her friends had spent the whole afternoon spoiling her with food. All we had was cake and ice-cream as we started catching up on the days’ activities. We were all cozied up. Holding hands as we gisted and laughed at each other’s joke.
“Babe, you know I love you right?”  I said to her. She nodded her head in affirmation. “I think it’s wise for us end things here and now.” I said.
She held her breath. Looked at me and gave me a sorrowful smile. “You need to think about what you just said before you act on it.” She said very slowly yet firmly as though she was talking to a child. She stood up, kissed my forehead and walked into her room and shut her door. I heard her crying when I stepped out of the house.
Now that’s not the reaction you would expect right? Yes! I know because I didn’t see that one coming.
I left feeling sad and happy. Sad that I just lost my bestie and happy that I was free again.
My friends had told me severally that I was a player and a very good one at that but what they didn’t really know was that I was sorely afraid to fall in love. I tend to love too deep when I go swimming in the ocean of love thus leaving me vulnerable to heartbreaks.  So to protect myself, I usually initiate the breakup with any love interest of mine before I’ll let love in to crack me open.
Present day!
My phone rang. My head was aching. Reluctantly I stretched out my hand and picked up the phone from my bed side drawer, the caller I.d was Funmi.
What she told me stunned me. #ItChangedMyLife
“I love you and I will always love you. I know your fears and I’m sorry you are yet to learn to love completely, to give up yourself to the bliss and pain that comes with love. I regret that my love did not rub off on you as I would have loved it to. Know this one thing; that in life people will hurt you and it will break your heart but it will only make you stronger. Learn to love. Love like there’s no tomorrow for life is too short to hold back love. Pull down your walls like I did mine for you. Love is always a breath of fresh air; it keeps you alive and saves you from your fears. If your heart is broken a million times then make up your mind to love another million times because love never gives up on you until you give up on yourself. Thank you for loving me once. I love you! Bye.”
She didn’t allow me say a word apart from “Hello”, so she basically calmly poured those words into my ear and hung up. I tried calling her back but she had switched off her phone.
What human being acts like this? Or is she even human at all? These were the questions that swamped my mind. I rushed to her place that morning only to see an ambulance driving out of the compound and her cousin sat on the stairs crying. I saw sad gloomy faces all around and I knew that something terrible had happened.
I was told that my Funmi had some crisis and passed away within five minutes of the paramedics from the ambulance getting to her. She had sickle cell and was always prone to such random attacks.
I am no longer who I used to be before I met Funmi. Funmi proved to me that life is too short not to be open to love. So today, I love not minding if I’ll hurt at some point because I know relationships have their ups and downs. I am open to second chances.
Today I know how easy it is to fall in love and how so very difficult it is to fall out of love all because Funmi gave me wings and the courage to fly.
A large percentage of my writings are centred on love and it’s all because of Funmi.  She changed my life.


I Got A September 11 Phone Call #ItChangedMyLife

By Rev Laurie Idahosa

I got a phone call… it changed my life.

I was happy living in America. I had an amazing life. I was a single woman in my late 20’s, independent, carefree and enjoying all the great things America offered. I owned my own home, my own car, my own business, I was a real estate investor, I was a minister, I took spectacular  vacations and went on missions all around the world, I had so many great friends…  It was a life that many single ladies would dream of!

Then, on the evening of September 11, 2001, I got a phone call that would change my life.

One of my childhood friends, Feb Idahosa called me.

September 11, 2001 happened to be the day that the terrorists blew up planes and killed over 4,000 innocent people in New York, Washington DC and Pennslvania. It was a day that the whole world was glued to their televisions in fear.  Phone calls were jamming all the networks as people were checking in with their loved ones to make sure they were okay.  I had family members in New York City that day, so, when I heard from Feb, I assumed he was just checking on me.

Little did I know, Feb was on a plane headed for America at the exact same time that terrorists were using planes to blow up buildings!

Feb began to tell me how they re-routed his plane to Canada (which was where he was calling from) and that he was stranded.  The airline was moving passengers to America via bus, since all flights had been cancelled until further notice.  They gave him an options of taking a 12 hour bus to New Jersey or a 24 hour bus somewhere else.  Feb was not a big fan of road trips. Of course, he wanted to choose the shorter route to New Jersey, which wasn’t far from where I lived.  The event he was coming to America for was cancelled because of the high level terrorist threat. He asked me if he could come and spend a few days with my family and I until he could return to Nigeria.

I said, yes and drove to New Jersey with my Mom to go pick him up.

In my heart, I was overjoyed to see Feb and to catch up on his life. It had been a while since we had even talked.  I never expected that the phone call and his visit to me would change my entire life.  It was during that visit that our love was rekindled and that he decided he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me as his wife.

Within 13 months from then, on October 18, 2002, I married my childhood friend, Feb and moved to Nigeria as his wife. My life is completely different from what I was used to, but, it is ten times more fulfilling and more exciting than I ever had, living in America.

Thank God that on that fateful day, Feb chose to call me, and not some other girl.  I got the September 11th phone call, it changed my life.

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I Discovered A Bird Of Prey #ItChangedMyLife

By Priscilla Adeboye

…I woke up. I was alone. I tried to sit up, and then I realised I still had some dregs of the jetlag I had contracted earlier from flying 36 hours to this place. And even though my ears were still buzzing, I heard the chirping of birds; there was a lure to it, as if they were calling my name.

So I got up and looked out of the window; the warm rays of the setting sun kissed my face. Nature, resplendent in its beauty. Selecting the room on the fifth floor at a hotel with no elevators, turned out to be a good idea after all. This view was a dream.

I stepped out to the balcony and then I felt my lungs inflate with the onrush of scenery: the skies, the sun, mountains, trees, birds, lakes, the natural landscape – folds, twist, bends, curves, and colours. My heart expanded in my chest at the sight of this breath-taking slice of heaven on earth.

That was when I saw her.

As I was still trying to catch my breath, I saw her.

With astonishing speed and manoeuvrability, she swooped by, grabbed what looked like a rabbit from afar and off she flew, without even landing.

I was hypnotised, mesmerised, fascinated, awe-struck. Whaaaaaaaatttt? Diving from such great heights, gliding through the air with so much grace and panache, ‘Swaguuu drippin’, if you like.

The Eagle. When you say that name, put some respeck’ on it. Clocked to fly at close to 200 miles per hour. Impressive both in size and fearsome beauty. Most popular animal symbol on flags, coins, seals, flags, and standards since ancient times. Admired the world over as a living symbol of power, freedom, bravery, courage, honour, pride, determination, graceand transcendence. Capable of floating, aka swimming and also ‘walking’.

After what I saw that evening, I had to find out more about this bird of prey. This. This. This eagle of a bird:

·         Eyes – Eagles’ eyes are extremely powerful, having up to 3.6 times human acuity, which enables them to spot a potential prey or enemy from a very long distance. Their eyes have a million light-sensitive cells per square mm of retina, five times more than a human’s 200,000. While humans see just three basic colours, eagles see five. These adaptations give eagles extremely keen eyesight and enable them to spot even well-camouflaged potential prey from a very long distance. Also, eagles have two sets of eyes. The first set is their natural eye which they have when they are in aresting mode. However, when they start to take flight on strong wind thermals, they have a second eye that comes in on them. This second eye enables them to fly on these strong winds without damaging their original eye. You have been blessed with the gift of physical sight but how acute is your mind? Remember ‘the eyes are useless when the mind is blind’. A big focused vision will yield big positive results. Interesting to note however, is that there are some things your physical eyes or mind would not see, you need a spiritual eye which only the Holy Spirit enables.  #selah

·         Fearlessness – the eagle will never surrender to the size of its prey. Eagles have been known to kill animals up to 5 times their size. It is always ‘fight to win’ with the eagle. It has also been observed that most birds of prey look back over their shoulders before striking prey (or shortly thereafter). All hawks seem to have this habit, from the smallest kestrel to the largest Ferruginous – but not the Eagles. No retreat, no surrender. Face problems head-on.

·         Play/Chillax – the eagle engages in some aerial displays, death-defying dives and swoops just for fun. After all, all work and no play… Also, at a certain age, the physical body condition of the eagle deteriorates fast making it difficult for her to fly or even survive. But even at that, she never gives up living. Instead, she retreats to a mountaintop and over a period and goes through a metamorphosis which produces a re-growth of the aged body parts, allowing the eagle to live for up to another 30 – 40 years.

·         Friendship – Eagles can fly up to an altitude of 10,000 feet, I have flown in an aircraft before that didn’t even get that high. At 10, 000 feet, the only other bird you’ll find is an eagle. The eagle doesn’t play around with suckers. Dr. Myles Munroe once said ‘eagles don’t mingle with pigeons. Pigeons scavenge on the ground and grumble and complain all day long. Eagles fly and make less noise, alwayswaiting for opportunities to strike their next prey or glide with the current of the storm’. No time to waste time. There is a saying that goes: “the people you hang around with and the books you read eventually determine the person you become.”

·         Tenacity – when the storm comes, other birds fly away to safety. Not the eagle, she spreads her mighty wings and rides on the wings of the wind to soar to greater heights. She uses the pressure of the storm to glide higher without having to use her own energy. She takes advantage of the very storm that would otherwise have destroyed her.

·         Nurturing – though known for their strength, pride and brutality, what is most astonishing about these birds of prey is their ability to nurture. 3 months before she starts to lay eggs, an eagle builds a cosy home for her young. Research has shown that no member of the bird family is more gentle and attentive to its young than the eagle. And when she sees that the time has come to teach her young to fly, she does a great job in nudging it to the greatness the Eagle dynasty is famous for.

·         Lifestyle – eagles live well. They eat well. They don’t feed on dead food. They are ranked at the top of the food chain as apex predators in the avian world. I like to think they sleep well too. They normally build their nests,at a vantage point high in a tree or on high cliffs in a permanent feeding territory. These nests are ‘renovated’ year after year and can become an enormous edifice, measuring up to 6-8 feet wide, 2 feet high and weighing well over 1,000 pounds.

·         Dependence – eagles are superlative soarers, powerful fliers—skilfully gliding over long distances. However, eagles would literally die if they expend too much energy flapping their strong big wings during flight. Yes, they are skilled birds, very talented and strong, but they are also smart enough to patiently wait for a big gust of wind to rise up from the atmosphere; theysoar on the wind currents without having to flap their wings. They do this in order to conserve energy. Sometimes, eagles remain perched for days before they can catch a good, strong, wind thermal. My Bible says: ‘“Not by might, nor by power, but by My Spirit,” says the Lord’. (Zechariah 4:6). We are able to achieve exponentially more with God’s help than we can on our own.

·         Loyalty – Eagles ‘mate for life’. Once eagles mate with their partners, they stay true and loyal to that other eagle for life. In the same way, God expects us to stay true, loyal, and faithful to our spouses to the day we die.

Ps: there is a prominent genus in the eagle family named Aquila, by the way

I found an awesome bird of prey and it changed my life. Dear Himalayas, I will be back.

NB: If you’d love to visit Nepal with me next year, please shoot me an email pi.adeboye@gmail.com

Unity and Faith, Peace and Progress,

Priscilla Adeboye


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I Discovered Purpose #ItChangedMyLife by Daniel Otabor

Dr S.O. And His Cane #ItChangedMyLife by Olubukola Omotoso

I Met A Happy Blind Lady #ItChangedMyLife by Nissi Inspiration

I Lost My Phone #ItChangedMyLife by Adekunle

I Fell In Love #ItChangedMyLife  By Tomi Adesina

I Watched Scandal #ItChangedMyLife By LordJosh

Tomorrow on #ItChangedMyLife; I Received A September 11 Phone Call #ItChangedMyLife by Rev Laurie Idahosa.


Death #ItChangedMyLife

By Okikiola Oladele

I have learnt to live life without a shade of worry. I mean when you look at it deeply what is the point of worrying. You never know what will happen tomorrow. You don’t even really know if tomorrow will come, so why do you want to keep yourself rooted in the very mystery that tomorrow holds and forget to live life today. Life is right here and now,in this moment, let tomorrow worry about itself. It is non-existent. You see, I am a “cross-the-bridge-when-we-get-there” kinda guy. I still am but then, death changed my life!

Death shouldn’t be new to me, well to many of us but it’s much more real around me. It lives around me, just around the corner. It could jump out anytime with its crooked sickle and snatch a soul. I see it every now and then so I could almost say I’m immune to it…or so I thought!
You see one would think being in the field of medicine makes one hardened to circumstances and happenstance. Ah, well, one might be right. You barely have time to grief for the loss of a patient before you attend to the next one. Nope!
It isn’t that you aren’t hurt but you can’t allow your mental status cloud your judgement so you put all thoughts of grief and sorrow aside! Superman fascie on and ready to go but every Superman still needs a Lois Lane, or how does the saying go? I digress. So you see…Death changed my life! And I will tell you why.
I haven’t talked about this a lot. 2012. It was a time that bent the fabric of reality for me as a person and made me see this life for what it really is. One of my cousins, more like a sister died. I had never felt shock like that before, as my father called out to me as I sat in the car…and you know when Dad is about to break a sad news to me, he gets unusually cheerful. I cried for about one week straight. It felt surreal.
A darkness threatened to engulf my heart and the world seemed bleak! You know after every night, the sun always shine again, right? Right? Oh it did. The sun really did shine! But only for a moment! We were healing and gradually returning to normal programming. The warmth was returning and smiles were becoming brilliant again! Radiant joy. Remember how I said death lives just around the corner? Yep! It jumped out and snatched another soul, specifically the sister this time around! You start asking questions, what is happening? Who did these lovely young ladies offend? That kind of thing messes with your mind especially when you take a minute to think about how the Immediate family members might be feeling. It is quite….crushing!
Fast forward a couple of years and more shocking deaths and you start getting wicked vibes down your spine. Stuff like what I have described are only seen in movies but then it hits close to home and suddenly you know that life isn’t what you thought it might be.
You may have designed a fancy dream of what your life should be. Who you will marry. Where you will settle down. How many cars you will own. These are all good! Brilliant as a matter of fact. Planning makes perfect but somehow we’ve gotten so engrossed in the future and we forget to live in present. LIFE IS FLEETING. Live life now! It goes without saying learn to appreciate people more, do the things you enjoy doing! Don’t keep yourself bottled up. I was discussing, just recently,  with a dear friend about how people tell us how we seem to be everywhere doing everything and my answer is simple. Whatever my hands find doing, I need to do it well!
We were born with so much talents and potentials that need to find expression. I want to be one of those guys who die empty! I want to get real here, I’m not trying to be dark but the truth is you never know when the sand will stop running in your hourglass. It’s something you want to take a moment and think about! You ask yourself, why should you keep hanging on to old relationships that may keep you grounded? Why do I want to keep living life in my corner? Why do I want to keep myself restricted to a particular diet? Why won’t I try out a new sport? Why do I want to keep living in this city?
Interesting to note is that you might have valid answers to some of those nagging questions at the back of your mind and that’s okay! The important question is, How do you see life? Something to just…deal with or a gift! I think we need to come to a realisation of the fact that everyday we live is a gift! Each waking moment is bigger than us and the moment we know or understand that, we step out of the frame and see the bigger picture!
When we begin to honour the sacrifices people make for us by using every waking moment as a treasure to be cherished such that if you were to check out right now and it is asked that what did you do with you life, you will see in that moment, In that instance, that life in itself is bigger than you!
So, you see…death changed my life! Now I am a big picture, tall dreams kinda guy! The goal is to die empty whenever that is.
Peace. Love and Chicken grease!

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I Met A Happy Blind Lady #ItChangedMyLife by Nissi Inspiration

I Lost My Phone #ItChangedMyLife by Adekunle

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I Read A Book #ItChangedMyLife

By Victoria Akinwande

One of my greatest heart desires has always been to lead an extraordinary life, to be significant, to leave a legacy for my generation. But, I didn’t know what it takes to make my dreams become a reality. “My dreams remained dreams”, there was no corresponding action to make them become a reality.

When anybody asked me “where do you see yourself in the nearest future?” my response used to be “I would be great and living a first class life.” Lol! I thought having great dreams and visions was all I needed to be phenomenal.


Sometimes last year, I visited a friend in Lagos, Nigeria. I love to travel a lot. My friend was very busy during the visit, I stayed home alone most of the time. It’s easier in situations like this to watch movies, listen to music and chat away my precious time, but I decided to READ.


My friend is an avid reader, there were books all over the room, close to 200 books, but I had to pick one. Choosing which one to read wasn’t easy mehn! I had to close my eyes to other books, most of the books were excellent books but one really caught my attention “The Monk That Sold His Ferrari.” Coincidentally, that was the same book my friend recommended.

The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari








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So, I embarked on a journey with the Leadership Expert and Titan Robin Sharma. Apart from the oldest and still relevant book which doesn’t need an upgrade “The Bible”. For me, “The Monk That Sold His Ferrari” is a book I recommend for people to read.


The human race usually thinks that the future is a time zone say 5, 10 years from now, No. The future is not a time zone it’s all that you have been created to be that you haven’t become, So I realized I had to stop dreaming and wishing. It’s fine to dream, there are many times I sit down and visualize myself in my dream house, car, family, audience, et. al.


But I had to get up and begin to do the things that I was born to do. I started by compiling inspirational quotes and send to my BBM contacts weekly, from there I graduated into writing and posting article on my social media accounts and today I have a blog where I post on daily (HERE). Truth is I haven’t done 1% of what God created me to do, but I’m on the path and I know I would arrive at my DESTINATION.


I realized that to have the result only the 5% of the world’s population have, I have to be willing and committed to thinking, behaving and installing the habits the other 95% of the world’s population are not willing to imbibe, that’s where we separate the great, that’s where the 5% rises to the top.


This book is a testimonial of the quote by Francis Bacon “Some books are to be tasted, others to be swallowed, and some few to be chewed and digested.”

I chewed and digested this book and it changed my life forever!

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I Discovered Purpose #ItChangedMyLife

I am now an undergraduate. Freedom at last. New friends, new country and new culture. All of these I am going to make sure I enjoy to the fullest. These were my thoughts as I got into school to study Computer Engineering Technology. I am not going to dull myself, I’m gon ball and also gon study. I won’t be left behind. So I can’t imagine being left out either.
So it all began. Went to club with friends, had a couple of bottles of beer, great shots of Jack Daniel and amazing true or dare games. Wow I have been missing a lot Oo. These kept on buzzing in my young mind. But at the end of every day I ‘flexed’, I never felt fulfilled. Something was missing I thought to myself. But what could that be. I am free now, I can sleep when I like and go out when I want. So what’s wrong? Sigh! This kept on happening. 100 level gone, 200 level followed suit and I am about to hit 300 level and my grades are not even encouraging to add to the matter. Mehn I can’t take this anymore. There’s got to be more like Micah Stampley observed.
Then the wake up call came through. It was my younger sister, the fourth child Dorathy Otabor. She called, “Hello Big Bro, How are you na?” She asked… “I am fine O my sis” I replied. She continued, “How’s school na? Hope everything is fine, just thought to check up on you and know how you are doing.” “Thank you so much sweet sis, school is fine and every every dey alright” I said to her. “Okay Bro, I will talk to you soon then.” She said and finally I replied “Thanks Sis. Good night”. As I was about to end the call she said, “Eh ehn Bro, do fast and graduate O, get a good job, own your apartment in Lagos so that Destiny and I can always come spend holiday with you in Lagos”. And then just like a babe whose wig just fell off her head as she’s about to climb a bike, that same feeling of mehn see level O. I realised I had a responsibility to ensure my life was properly fixed.
But what was missing was still the question? But not for long again, and with the help of my faith, I realised that it was a sense of not knowing where I was headed in life, what I was living for and why I was on earth was the reason I always felt something was missing. It was PURPOSE missing all along.
The journey began and I search for my purpose in line with how my faith taught me to. I prayed to the one who created me, God. Discussed with mentors and read books like it was my oxygen and BOOM! I had the Eureka moment. The moment when you finally get the answer to that Calculus question that has made you become someone with amnesia. It was revealed to me in bits that I was meant to live my life ensuring those I come in contact with I help unleash their greatness, build Nations and help grow start-ups to world class. I was meant to speak and lives will be transformed. I was meant to write and destinies will be revived. Finally I had discovered my purpose in life. What a feeling, still in that moment of clarity I got a word that would forever change the way men saw purpose. The word was, “the day you discover purpose should be your birthday.” Because I believe you are not yet born until you discover your purpose and you have not yet lived until you are truly living purposefully.
Fast-forward few years later, I am speaking in conferences, seminars both in Nigeria and outside Nigeria, travelled to 24states in Nigeria for speaking engagements, spoke in prestigious universities in Nigeria and got a book published. Gotten multiple awards, met great men, still praying to meet many and the list of great accomplishments just keeps growing. What’s even more amazing is that I am still in my incubation stage.
Truth is a life without purpose is like a black hole. It can never be filled by or with anything. No matter how much you put in it. It will always get swallowed up. Please what do you call a car without engine or DSTV without channels?
Mehn Fam I won’t deceive you, the day I discovered purpose, my life changed.



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